So I feel like God's been calling me to sell my car and get rid of the debt I owe on it, buy something way cheaper. Then I get rear-ended on the freeway and I ask "OK, what's up, God?" Later that day I talk about it on the show, asking "What would you do if you felt God leading one direction and then wammo! an obstacle appears?" A couple hours later, I received an email from a lady that really discouraged me. I was hurt, frustrated cause she seemed to miss my point and wanted to be upset. But then I presented it to you and your responses were so mind blowing and perspective changing. You can read it all here.
I've also been praying, writing and trying to figure out my response to someone who not only hurt me, but then completely cut me out awhile back. I felt because so much time passed, I'd resolved this in my heart but when this friend recently contacted me out of the blue to offer a simple apology, I realize again how deeply it affected me. I felt twinges of anger rise up and a definite sense of loss but felt so conflicted in how to respond.
This Sunday a speaker was supposed to have flown in from Portland to share with the congregation but he got sick and instead Chris very obediently shared from his heart. He started telling stories about adults he knew as a kid and how he saw them in their Christian walk/lifestyle - honest and real vs. ignorant and in denial. He then went on to pose the question to us, how do we want to live our lives so that children see us and say "That is the kind of Christian I want to be like..." Full of forgiveness, peace, understanding and Luke 17.
"So each of you needs to be careful. Instead of encouraging wrongdoing in any way, be a person who overcomes wrongdoing. If your brother sins against you, confront him about it, and if he has a change of mind and heart then forgive him. Even if he wrongs you seven times in a single day, if he turns his back to you each time and says he's sorry and will change, you must forgive him."
And there's the answer of how to respond when someone hurts or wrongs you. I don't think it's easy, but I'm sure the more you practice and breathe in this teaching and law, it will be become more habit.
Plus, that's just what Jesus would do :)